🔥 About This Substack

For the ones who know there’s more — more truth, more love, more life — but haven’t been given the right map.

Welcome to a place where the polite, performative self gets left at the door—and the real work of coming home to who you actually are begins.

This Substack is a transmission from the other side of self-abandonment.

Written by John Kai Wallis, this space is part memoir, part map, part mirror. It’s for those navigating the space between the life they were conditioned into and the one they’re here to create. It’s for those waking up to the ways trauma has shaped their relationships, their identities, their choices—and are ready to meet that with courage, not clichés.

I’ve walked through addiction, denial, control, heartbreak, and identity collapse. I've lived the masks and shed them. I’ve studied the depths of somatic psychology, body-based trauma therapy, spiritual truth-telling, and human relational patterning across cultures and archetypes. I bring it all here — not just as theory, but as lived experience.

This isn’t your typical healing newsletter.
This is a reckoning. A remembering. A return.

✨ Why Subscribe?

Because you’re tired of:

• Feeling like something’s missing—even when life looks good on paper.

• Repeating the same relationship patterns, with different faces.

• Being too much and not enough—all at the same time.

• Performing healing while secretly wondering if you’re still broken.

• Navigating a life that was designed for survival, not fulfillment.

Because you’re ready to:

• Feel again. In your body. In your relationships. In your purpose.

• Build love that doesn’t require self-sacrifice or control.

• Speak with power—not performance.

• Trust yourself so deeply, you stop outsourcing your authority.

• Move beyond self-help fluff into deep, embodied integration.

✅ What You’ll Get

• 🔍 Truth-drenched essays that expose the survival patterns running your love life, your leadership, and your nervous system.

• 💔 Breakup transmissions and reflections that honour grief as initiation—not pathology.

• 🧠 Character pattern deep dives (Leaving, Merging, Endurer, Aggressive, Rigid) so you can stop shaming your reactions and start understanding your relational blueprint.

• 🎧 Podcast episodes from The Space Between — where we unpack the unspoken aftermath of heartbreak, grief, and liberation.

• 🧭 Love Mapping tools to help you attract partners who meet you as you are, not the version you perform.

• 💥 Satirical memes + punchy cultural critiques on the healing industrial complex, men’s work, feminine energy coaching, and nervous system fetishism.

• 🧬 Essays for the thinkers, the feelers, and the misfits who need language for what their body has always known.

• 🔮 Spiritual reflections that integrate Indigenous wisdom, Reichian bioenergetics, and the cosmic orientation of the I Ching — not bypasses, but anchors.

For Who?

This space is for:

• The ones who’ve outgrown “polarity” teachings, but still crave embodied relationship.

• Men who’ve been performing masculinity and women who are exhausted from carrying it all.

• Parents who want to break generational patterns—not just talk about them.

• Leaders and creatives who’ve built success but ache for meaning.

• And anyone tired of pretending healing is linear, polite, or Instagrammable.

If you're looking for sugar-coated affirmations, this probably isn’t for you.

But if you want to finally feel like someone sees the truth you’ve been living behind your eyes...

You’ve found the right place.

TL;DR

This Substack is for people waking up from performance, people-pleasing, and patterned relationships — and ready to live, love, and lead from embodied truth.

You’ll get:

1. Raw, honest essays on trauma patterns and relationship healing

2. Deep dives into survival structures (Leaving, Merging, etc.)

3. Tools to break cycles and build real love

4. Satirical takes on pop-spirituality and healing culture

5. Parenting wisdom, spiritual insight, nervous system truth bombs

6. Content that actually meets you where you’re at — not where you “should” be…

Written by John Kai Wallis, this is not self-help.

It’s self-reclamation.

💥 Subscribe if you’re ready to stop performing healing and start living free.